You’re Not Failing at Love Because You’re Broken

You can handle pressure, deadlines, and crises.

You can walk into chaos at work and somehow make it all make sense

But one tone of voice from your partner and your chest tightens,
your brain races or shuts down,
and you’re back in that same fight again.

You’ve read the books.

You’ve tried to communicate better.
You’ve promised yourself, “I’ll stay calm this time.”

And still, you either:

• explode
• withdraw
• over-explain
• or completely shut down

Part of you is starting to wonder:

“Maybe I’m just not built for love.”

“Maybe there’s something wrong with me.”

“How can I be this successful and still be failing at home?”

Here’s the truth I need you to hear:

You’re not the problem.
Your emotional blueprint is.

You’re not bad at love.
You’re reenacting a nervous system pattern that started long before this relationship.

It’s Not a Communication Problem. It’s a Blueprint Problem.

As a child, you learned what love, safety, and worth felt like in your body.

You watched how your caregivers handled:

• conflict
• stress
• disappointment
• your emotions

And your nervous system quietly wrote a code: an emotional blueprint that still runs in the background today.

That blueprint decides:

• why certain tones make you panic
• why you either chase or shut down in conflict
• why you feel like a different person in your relationship than you are anywhere else
• why stability feels boring, and chaos feels “deep”

You don’t keep having the same fight because you’re stubborn or broken.

You keep having the same fight because your blueprint is running the exact same Worst Day Cycle™ over and over again:

Trauma → Fear → Shame → Denial → Repeat

You’ve been trying to fix this with information and communication skills.

This micro-course shows you how to change the code underneath.

What You Will Learn

Inside this 90-minute micro-course, you’ll learn:

• Why high achievers are uniquely vulnerable to failing at intimacy.
• How your childhood wrote an emotional code—your blueprint—that still runs your nervous system today.
• The Worst Day Cycle™ and why you keep having the same fight, no matter how hard you try to avoid it.
• How your nervous system confuses your partner with your past (and what to do when it does).
• Which role you play in conflict—pursuer or distancer—and how to stop making each other the enemy.
• How to take responsibility for your side of the pattern without collapsing into shame.
• Three simple Emotional Authenticity practices you can start using immediately to change your pattern in real life.
  

What This Course Gives You

This course is not “tips,” communication hacks, or date-night ideas.

You’ll leave with:

• A clear, compassionate explanation of why you’ve been failing at love.
• Language to finally describe what’s happening inside you during conflict.
• A simple map of your emotional blueprint—and how it formed.
• Tools to recognize your nervous system state before it hijacks you.
• A new way to see your partner: not as the enemy, but as someone fighting their own childhood, too.
• Practical, doable steps to start living from Emotional Authenticity instead of survival.
• A clear sense of whether you’re ready for deeper work—and what that next step looks like.
  

Who This Course Is For

This course is for you if:

• You’re a high achiever—professionally, personally, or both.
• You feel like a different person in conflict than you are anywhere else.
• You’re tired of reading advice that doesn’t match your actual emotional life.
• You’ve tried to do this alone and are tired of feeling like you’re the problem.
• You want honest, trauma-informed truth about why this keeps happening and what to do next.

This course is especially for couples where one or both partners are:

• Over-functioning, fixing, or controlling.
• Shutting down, disappearing, or numbing out.
• Swinging between “I’ll fix everything” and “I’m done.”

Course Curriculum



Module 1: The High Achiever’s Double Life
Why you can win at work and still feel like a failure in love—and the emotional blueprint behind it.

Module 2: Your Emotional Blueprint
How your first lessons about love, safety, and worth are still running your relationship today.

Module 3: The Worst Day Cycle™
Why you keep having the same fight and how Trauma → Fear → Shame → Denial plays out between you.

Module 4: Your Nervous System on Love
What’s really happening in your body during conflict—and why “logic” isn’t enough.

Module 5: Pursuer, Distancer, and the High Achiever Trap
How you and your partner dance around each other when you’re scared—and how to see the kid under the reaction.

Module 6: From “I’m the Problem” to “It’s the Blueprint”
Taking responsibility without shame and starting to live from your Adult Self.

Module 7: Emotional Authenticity in Real Life
Three daily practices that begin to shift your pattern in real conversations.

Module 8: What Comes Next
Where to go from here if this finally explained your whole story—and how to know if you’re ready for deeper work with Kenny.

My Promise

By the end of this course, you will:

• Understand exactly why you’ve been great at almost everything except intimacy.
• See your relationship patterns through the lens of blueprint, not “I’m broken.”
• Have simple, concrete tools to start changing how you show up in hard moments.
• Know the difference between what you can work on alone and what requires deeper guidance.

Most importantly, you’ll leave thinking:

“This explains everything. I’m not crazy.

I’m not broken.

And I don’t have to keep living like this.”

If you’re done pretending your success in one area makes up for the pain in your relationship—

If you’re ready to finally understand why you keep failing at love—

Then this is your next step.

Click below to get instant access to Why High Achievers Fail at Love and start your emotional blueprint reset.

The Trauma-Informed Safety & Support Guarantee

You’ve carried the emotional weight for a long time. You’ve tried. You’ve worked. You’ve hoped. You’ve endured.

The last thing you need is another program that overwhelms you or leaves you feeling blamed, pressured, or ashamed.

That will never happen here.

You Will Never Be Shamed, Rushed, or Made Wrong.

This program was created for people who:

shut down

overreact

get overwhelmed

avoid conflict

get defensive

freeze emotionally

try hard but feel like they’re failing

You are not “too much.”You are not “too late.”You are not broken.

You are human.

You Can Go at Your Own Pace

There is:

no falling behind

no “shoulds”

no performance requirements

Your nervous system sets the pace. You take the next step when you’re ready, not when a deadline tells you to.

You Are Safe to Be Honest Here

You will not be:

blamed

judged

criticized

emotionally punished

Inside this program, you will experience:

clarity

compassion

truth

safety

Emotional Authenticity

You get to tell the truth about your experience without being made wrong for it.

You Will Always Have Support

You will know exactly what to do, step-by-step. You are not left alone to “figure it out.”

You can post private questions, and I WILL respond.

You are no longer doing this work by yourself.

Want My Help Walking You Through This Together?

If you’re noticing you’re the

common denominator in your own pain—same rejection, same panic, same shutdown, just with different people and different jobs—you’re not crazy, and you’re not broken.

You’re running an Emotional Blueprint you didn’t know you had.

The class you’re in gives you the tools to start mapping and shifting that blueprint.

But if you want someone to sit with you in the mess, help you see what you can’t see, and walk you through applying Emotional Authenticity to your real, daily life, that’s exactly what we do in 

private coaching.

In 1:1 work together, we can:

• Trace your triggers back to the childhood moments that wired them
• Unpack the shame stories that keep saying “it’s all my fault” or “I’m too much / not enough.”
• Break the patterns of people-pleasing, over-giving, or shutting down that are costing you your peace
• Practice new responses in real time so your nervous system learns safety instead of panic
• Rebuild a relationship with yourself where you’re no longer abandoning yourself just to keep the peace
  
  

If you’re tired of doing this in your head, by yourself, and you know it would help to have someone in your corner who understands the Worst Day Cycle™, Emotional Authenticity, and the blueprint you’re carrying…

You can request a private coaching spot with me here:

https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350

I only take on a limited number of individual clients at a time so I can stay fully present with each person.

If your gut is saying, “I can’t keep doing it this way,” this is your invitation to take the next step together.